This is not another “how to lower your stress” site. It is not about avoiding stress or how to “get over” or “move on” from trauma or grief. It is about living with stress, trauma and grief by making connections, creating meaning and seeking growth. Within these pages, you’ll find an invitation to seek balance rather than one-dimensional “fixes.” People like unambiguous solutions, but they really don’t work – spiritually, emotionally or physiologically.
We want so badly to categorize events as good or bad. Yet that’s how we become “stuck” in grief and trauma. However, if we grimly regard an experience as a horror to be buried and forgotten, we’ll never find or make meaning. If we ignore trauma and pretend that life is all unicorns and sunshine, we’ll discover, sooner or later, that our brains, bodies and souls are holding onto the pain.
(Adapted from the introduction to “Horrible Privilege: Stress, Spirit and Science,” by Nick Arnett.)